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What is EFT?

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EFT is a model of couples, families, and individual therapy that works with the emotional bond between people as well as the negative dynamic that people get stuck in. Humans are born as relational animals with wiring in our brain to look to other people to increase our chances of survival.

 

 In couples, if one person gets the message this mechanism is under threat it will cause that person to react in fight, flight, or freeze. The partner will be unaware that this survival mechanism has been triggered and label that behavior as irrational, only increasing the volume of this behavior.  You can imagine how fast that escalates. 

 

In families, parents have natural care-taking systems that can be blocked for a number of reasons. For example, the anxiety of feeling as though you are not being a good parent. The blocking of this survival mechanism to children then causes them to act out in order to get the love and positive attention they need. I work with the whole family to uncover these dynamics. 

 

For individuals, it is very possible this care-taking system was blocked at one time or another or even damaged in the way of verbal, emotional, or sexual abuse. I will help you access and re-organize this old belief system put in place by these traumas. Emotions exist in the back part of the brain and work faster and stronger than your rational cognition. This makes it difficult for people to change behaviors or thought processes on their own. With my help we will explore narratives and belief systems you may have about yourself, relationships, and the world.